Trust in the Coach-Client Relationship

Before the coaching connection even begins, it is essential to create an atmosphere of trust. Trust is a foundational component in the coaching relationship.  It fosters a safe place for the coach-client relationship to blossom. My method for establishing trust includes (1) being authentic, which means being real, (2) being transparent or sharing my journey and (3) being present in each moments that I spend with my clients.  

Coaching Conversations

My Thought and Prayers

Hello,

I am taking advantage of this forum not only to remember Robin Williams, but to also remember the countless others who have gone on before him and unfortunately those who will go on after him.

Considering the field of study I am embarking upon (Human Services), my heart is just heavy right now for those who suffer with depression and/or addiction.  I use "and/or" because we know they often go hand and hand, but I do not want to assume or presume this is the case 100% of the time.  Whatever the case specifics maybe is really irrelevant.  What I do know is that people are out there in the world suffering and hurting in silence; and we have seen from the recent turn of events status, fame, or fortune do not matter.

So, what can we do as a people to make the world a better place?  How do we help people to heal from the things that cause them dis-ease?  How can we positively impact someone's life and encourage them to believe not only in tomorrow, BUT today?  I want people to know and believe that things will be better because their RIGHT NOW is better NOW!

For me God is my source, but life still hurts and gets me down; I choose to trust in God and I know that my BETTER is around the corner.

I pray that we all find comfort in drawing nigh unto Him.

Yvette

My Confession

Have you ever wondered how you can tell or encourage someone about something that you really don't or won't or can't believe for yourself?

Well, as a parent I have done it OFTEN!!

I have always told my daughters they could do anything and everything they've ever wanted to do and they could be anything and everything they've ever wanted to be.  

Today, it occurred to me that I have NOT always believed this for myself.  Now, here's the irony of it all.  I realized this just today, as I was telling myself, "Yvette, you can be anything and everything you want to be and you can do anything and everything you want to do!"  That's when it hit me; I have never believed this for myself.  I think it's because I never aspired to do anything GREAT; at least not by the world's standards.  I never aspired to be the President of the United States, I never aspired to be the first woman to _______, I never aspired to be the first black woman to ______; I've just been ok with just being ME.  On another note, I've always BELIEVED that being ME was a GREAT person to BE.

You see, until about a year ago, I lived my life for my children; well, they are grown women now.  My entire life was about them. I raised them to be independent and self-sufficient; the same way my father raised ME.  My goal was to get them through life with minimal stress and/or strife (as much as I had control over it), and provide them with a firm (sound) foundation in education, family values, and a Christian Lifestyle (once I understood the purpose and value in being a Christian myself).  Well, to the best of my ability and with the guidance of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit, I've done just that.

The question now is, "Where do I go from here?"   This brings me back to my original thought, "Yvette, you can be anything and everything you want to be and you can do anything and everything you want to do!"  

So, maybe this is more than My Confession; it's my ENCOURAGEMENT to YOU!!  

You can be ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you've ever wanted to BE and You can do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you've ever wanted to do!!

I hope I have encouraged you today!

Yvette

Where Do I Begin??

Where do I begin with this post?  I do not know where to start and not really sure what I want to say.  I just felt compelled to write – to say something because so many GREAT things are happening in my life.  I want to scream it from the mountaintops.

When I signed up for this virtual book tour, I really had no idea of what to expect.  I know this may not sound right, but I really didn’t have any expectations at all.  I knew that my book would get into the hands of people I didn’t know and who I definitely would not have otherwise come into contact with; but what I did not expect was the wealth of responses that I have received from/for the book.  The book reviews have been off the chart!!!  I mean, people didn’t just sit down and write:

• “This is a good book. “
• “The subject matter of this book is on time.”
• “This book is a must read.”

People really took their time to read and digest what I had written.  Even in their reviews they pulled out parts of the book they truly connected with and/or resonated with their Spirit.  I can tell you, this is an AWESOME feeling and has been a wonderful EXPERIENCE.

I have met so many survivors of Child Sexual Abuse since this tour began that it is really mind-boggling.  Even though I have researched the statistics, I know the prevalence rates…I still cannot believe how often Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) occurs.

Statistics:
It is generally believed that an estimated one in four girls will be sexually abused by her 18th birthday. Boys are abused at the rate of about one in six. Usually, the abuse begins gradually and then increases over time. It is rarely a one-time incident. Often, it continues for years, until the abuser is found out or the child grows up and moves away. (Retrieved from: http://www.heroproject.org/en/how-often-does-child-sexual-abuse-happen)

As a community, society, nation, country, citizen, an individual we MUST do our part to STOP CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE!!

I pray you will join me, I pray you will join others in this MOVEMENT.

Yvette

Book Review By Sonja M. Sells

Enjoy this review of I Didn't Know by Sonja M. Sells, Breath Inspired Thoughts

 

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and could relate to the content being I experience sexual abuse as a young child. Even though an easy read, this book confronts what many in today’s society feel is a touchy subject. I liked that she shared her personal story but also backed up with facts and discussed the different forms of abuse. I give her kudos for laying self aside and being the voice of others who even though they may be grown, still have yet to discover their own voice. While reading this book, I kept thinking how this is truly a seminar in a book! I recommend this book to all readers who desire to be set free as well as educated on the subject.

Start believing in yourself because I already do!


Sonja M. Sells

http://www.breathinspired.com/2013/10/i-didnt-know-dealing-with-sexual-abuse.html#gpluscomments

 

 

 

~Tour Schedule~

October, 7 Perfect Chaos http://tinyurl.com/knn3cgn

October 7 Aspired Writer  http://tinyurl.com/m5yo6ge

October 8 Diva’s Literary World  http://tinyurl.com/m6cghye

October 8 All That Buzz Reviews http://allthebuzzreviews.com 

October 9  Thought Provoking Perspective http://thoughtprovokingperspectives.wordpress.com/

October 9Shades of Romance http://sormag.blogspot.com

October 10 Breath Inspired Thoughts  http://www.breathinspired.com

October 10 Jewell D Moore http://jewelldmoore.wordpress.com

October 11  Makasha Dorsey  http://makashadorsey.com

October 14 Written Voices Blog http://writtenvoicesblog.com/

October 15 Ms. Minolta White http://whiteminolta.blogspot.com  

October 16 Black Lilac Kitty http://blacklilackitty.wordpress.com

October 17 Authors & Readers Book Corner http://arbookcorner.wordpress.com

October 18 My Devotional Thoughts http://www.mydevotionalthoughts.net

October 21 The Spotlight is On You http://pharperjohnson.wordpress.com

October 22 Editorial Independence http://www.editorialindependence.com

October 23 Cheryl’s Christian Book Connection   http://cherylschristianbookconnection.blogspot.com  

October 24 Empowered to Prosper http://empowertoprosper.wordpress.com/

October 25In Another World  http://susanleighnoble.wordpress.com/

October 28 You Gotta Read Reviews  www.yougottaread.com

October 29 The Author’s Hideaway   http://lwtheauthorshideaway.blogspot.com 

October 31 Chick Lit Gurrl  http://chicklitgurrl.blogspot.com

~Radio Shows~

Tuesday, October 8

The Cyphers Den
Host: Nefertari and JaeQwon
Call in# (646)200-4307
7:10 P.M. EDT
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thecyphersden

Sunday, October 13

Author Chat
Host: Lynda Brown
Call # (424) 675-8262
4:00 P.M. CST
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lyndabrown

Tuesday, October 15

Conversation Live Radio
Host: Cyrus Webb
Call in # (347)426-3645
8:00 P.M. EST
www.blogtalkradio.com/conversationslive

Wednesday, Oct 16

Divas Literary World
Host: Lisa Muhammad
Call in # (914) 338-1494
12:00 P.M. EST
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/divasliteraryworld

Friday, October 25

That Literary Lady
Host: Yolanda M. Johnson-Bryant
Call in# (646) 716-8598
6:30 P.M. EST
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ontheairwiththatliterarylady

Saturday, October 26

Indie Review Behind The Scenes Radio
Host: Michelle Cornwell-Jordan
Call in # (888) 436-7591
11:00 A.M. CST
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/indiereviews-behind-the-scenes

Saturday, Nov 23

Off The Shelf Radio
Host: Denise Turney
Call in # (347) 994-3490
11:00 A.M. EST
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/denise-turney-

Virtual Book Tour

Here's the link to view my schedule for my Virtual Book Tour:
Oct 7 - Nov 1

http://wnlbooktours.com/yvette-allen-tatum/